What and when was your last self-loving moment?
I cannot stress enough how important, even crucial, this is in any kind of self-development. I will repeat it over and over. Because without self-love we can’t give love to others. Without self care, we can’t properly care for others either. Simply because we don’t know how.
Think about airplane rules in case of emergency for parents : their oxygen masks first, and then their child’s. Otherwise, the parent would risk losing consciousness without even being able to help!
It is not altruistic to consume ourselves for others, it is only self-destructive. Whatever we might tell ourselves, we need to give ourselves the love first, and THEN share it.
Give yourself some love today: put yourself first on something that really matters to you and only you. Not something to look good, to feel good about yourself, your performance or please or care for others, something just for you. And then let yourself feel how you will naturally get a little kinder and loving.